"In other words, they've put the onus for rape on anything except rapists." It's not a 'mistake' but a deliberate decision to treat another person like a soulless object." Later in the book she places a finer point on the misdirection of blame, noting that certain media commentators have long tried to blame various mitigating factors such as "binge drinking, the decline of religious values … bad parenting" for rape. Sexual assault, as Harding writes, is not "a failure of 'normal restraint but of humanity. SIGN UP for the free Essential Arts & Culture newsletter > But the man who sexually assaulted me is the only person to blame, and the only person who could have prevented the crime from happening - by not doing it. After the piece was published, one of the now adult children from that family sent me a note on Facebook to express her indignation at having been outed as "the family that introduced you to a pedophile" she immediately assumed that I was blaming her for not stepping in to prevent this trauma from happening.
I recently wrote a piece in which I recounted my experience of having been sexually assaulted as a teenager by a much older man that I knew through a family I adored growing up. Who's doing all the raping here? Incubi? If nobody's actually committing rape, how are we supposed to address it as a public health and safety issue." Or, I would add, address it at all. Harding, herself a victim of rape, writes: "It is as though none of us ever learned about 'passive voice' in freshman comp.
0 kommentar(er)
